This has always been my daily routine ever since the 2020 pandemic hit. I have never had any issues with this routine except for the fact that when I started playing games I noticed I procrastinated more, but honestly who doesn't? I only really started to have an issue with this routine after I moved into my dorm and had to learn to adjust to living with a roommate.
With that said I was lucky enough to room with my high school best friend, and I know many say that one shouldn't room with a friend, especially their best friend, because it ruins friendships... but this is not the case for us. Though, something to note is that we both have very different hobbies and schedules. So to put it into simpler terms my best friend mainly watches dramas and studies, which don't get me wrong I also do, but I also play games, and the best time to play games ーof course is at night.
At first, things were fine but after some time as the school quarters went on, she started to complain about me staying up late and being too loud, so I had to adjust. We had to find a middle ground and it was pretty hard to do, especially since she is a morning person and is sensitive to light when she sleeps. While I personally am a night owl and sleep pretty late.
To compromise, last year we agreed on 12 AM being our quiet hours, meaning no gaming, lights off, and if I have to talk, I have to be really quiet. This was fine for the most part but it did take some time to adjust to because I, at that time would call my then-partner every night because we were doing LDR which is not one for the weak but that's a story for another time.
Now though, we are both in our 2nd year of college and she got into the nursing program. Due to this, she has to wake up at 8 AM every day and 3 AM on her clinical days. This year we still decided to stick to our original quiet hours and it has worked perfectly fine... for the most part. We faced issues whenever I noticed that she would come back to dorm exhausted and asleep by 8 PM which is when we started to have our issues again.
We addressed it and figured out that the best way for both of us to live comfortably is for her to wear earplugs and an eyemask, as long as I promise to also stick to the 12 AM quiet hours rule and not be too loud in general. We also agreed to have the fan on at all times to help drown out the noise and to have my lamp facing as far away from her as possible. To add I also don't play games as often or call my partner much at night and if I do, I am usually just typing to them or whispering to communicate.
I have no regrets about rooming with my best friend but I can't deny that it doesn't get hard and slightly frustrating at times, but it is what it is.... these were the boundaries and rules we set. My question is though what would you guys suggest?
chat/rant soon! shannea x
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